Ontelbaar veel momenten van afscheid

Performance on video.

I was confronted daily with the feeling of having to “say goodbye” repeatedly. I felt the need to give shape to these feelings. I got inspired by the play ‘Funeral’, in which the scene where I had to throw a handful of confetti in the air, touched me profoundly. I wanted to recreate the moment together with my father. No confetti, but flower petals, like the ones we sprinkled on her grave during the funeral. During the performance, I wanted to bring a ladder with us as a prop. The ladder created a (physical) distance between us and the raw emotion of grief. Furthermore, it created an alienation; which gave some breathing room. We searched for places that made us want to say goodbye to my mother/his wife. I would set up the ladder, and my father would climb it with a handful of petals. This act of climbing the ladder and throwing the petals, slowly shifted our perspective: emotions and memories are re-experienced from a somatic state. In addition, my father became a fellow ‘maker’ and not just a spectator. He took the role of co-creator without any direction on my part. I didn’t try to control the route. When we were done at one place, I left it up to him to continue or stop the performance. This work was initially made for research purposes.